Recently, a friend and I, lets just call him Uncle, so happened to be hanging around some V-Day greeting cards while waiting for my sister to join us. He suddenly held up a card and asked me what I would do if someone sent me that. Now, at this point, I need to explain to you what that looks like à it is sort of like a box thingy – with some soppy words and a bunny handphone accessory attached to it.
I told him, “I think the person hates me.”
Uncle went, “Huh!?” (Followed by dumbfounded silence)
In my defence, it wasn’t that the card was not sweet; it was lah – in a cheesy sort of way. And I suppose it would do the trick… if I was 12! But seriously, for those who know me, do I look like someone who will have a bunny rabbit hanging from my handphone? Like seriously!? So, does he or does he not hate me if a guy got me that?
So this is where I got thinking about something that has been plaguing my mind for a long time –AVDA. So I have finally decided to stop procrastinating and get on with it.
So this note, oh Children of Joy and Happiness, is a symbol of the birth of AVDA, and the commencement of the first meeting!
What is AVDA you may ask?
Well, my curious friends, AVDA simply means Anti Valentine’s Day Anonymous - AVDA for short.
Well, you may ask, me creating AVDA, does that mean I am a heartless female canine and totally against the concept of love and romance?
Well, no, not really. I don’t totally hate romance or the concept of love. I just find it over-rated. No, wait… actually, I find Valentine’s Day over-rated.
Meals are double the price. Flowers are double (sometimes triple) the price. Mushy soppy cards that profess of love that other times of the year, you wonder if it is true flood the shops. And all these things are just like salt on the wound of single ppl out there. If you had never felt insecure about being single, now would be the time you probably will!
No, I am not being bitter about this just because I am single. Yes, it would be nice to have someone, but then again, it wouldn’t be the end of the world if I didn’t as well. And besides, I rather someone who would appreciate me on his own free will rather than join the band wagon with all the other tom, dick and harrys and not forgetting moe, larry and curlys out there. Oh, lets not forget jane, mary and ann, and molly, sue and rose who demands for special treatment from their other half on a day that some joker out there created and decided to impose it on everyone! (No offence to anyone who may be name tom, dick, harry, moe, larry, curly, jane, mary, ann, molly, sue and rose ya!)
I mean seriously, if I wanted someone to romance me why must it be that one designated day? Why not surprise me on other days for no apparent reason? In fact why must he be the one to make all the effort? Why not me? Why can’t women make the effort to surprise their man instead? Which I have by the way and I am not going to go into details what happened lah… ;-)
I had a conversation with an uncle of mine (I mean my real biological uncle – not the one above) about why I would like my man to be able to cook and clean – not because I am a lazy sod, but because just as men like to come home and see their woman making a effort for them, women like that too. So, why must the guy always make the effort for V-Day? Men like to be wined and dined as well… right? (Come guys I am trying to help you here ok!)
Anyway, back to AVDA. So who should consider signing up?
Well, for starters, it isn’t for those who are heartbroken and have sworn off men or relationships. Furthermore it is also not for the men who think their gfs are demanding and temperamental and are seeking a support group.
Oh no it isn’t.
AVDA is for those who believe in romance / love but above all, believe in the importance of valuing your special person, WITHOUT the need to commercialise and exploit the relationship.
It is for those who love their partner enough to make the occasional effort to cook a meal for that person now and then. Buy them little gifts now and then. Leave them random messages like “I am watching your favourite movie and wished you were watching it with me,” Or “I had a really bad day, need some cheering up. Dinner at 8?” Or whatever that rocks your boat lah! Or just be totally comfortable being with that person and not have to let the silence worry you.
Anyway, my point is this lah. I am not against V-day. Just wished we stopped putting so much effort in that one overly commercialised day and instead, spend more time and more effort building the relationship during the other 364 days lah………
So, thus endeth AVDA’s first meeting.
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